Thursday, March 12, 2009

The Dos and Don'ts of Divorce

Is it ever okay to divorce?

Jesus says in Matthew 19 that the only case where divorce is okay is marital unfaithfulness. Dr. Mark Quanstrom describes sex as the seal of the marriage covenant, if a personal is unfaithful to his/her spouse, he has broken that seal. I think that we would agee that only the one who has been wronged can [rightfuly] seek the divorce. A person can't cheat on his/her spouse and then seek divorced thinking that he/she is spiritually justified.

I think that we would all also agree that it is okay for a person to seek a divorce if there is physical abuse going on in the home. As a pastor, it would not make sense for me to advise a woman to stay with her abusive husband.

What about some other areas where Scripture & Reason aren't so clear.

Paul writes in 1 Corinthians 7:12-13 that a believer should stay with his unbelieving spouse as long as the unbeliever is willing to live with the believer. What if the non-Christian is not willing? What if the non-Christian is strongly opposed to Christianity, Church, etc. to an extent that the believer's relationship with Christ is harmed? (That may be an individual vs. communal question).

What about emotional/verbal abuse in a relationship. If one is always degrading the other, should divorce be considered an option? You know relationships like these, when the wife or husband has been so belittled that they are not even able to develop his/her own opinions.

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